In a world that still measures worth by productivity, politeness, and predictability, many neurodivergent people, including those with ADHD and autism, find themselves chasing an impossible standard, the good autistic myth, that suggests worthiness depends on how closely one can appear to be “high-functioning” or “well-behaved.” The “good autistic” is often portrayed as the person who makes eye contact, speaks fluently, and suppresses their stims. The “good ADHD’er” may appea
